6. Make the most of the unexpected. If you suddenly realise you can both be home from work early one day and have the house to yourselves, use that precious gift of unusual time together to add the freshness of variety to your loving.
It’s a wonderful change to make love in daylight if the demands of work and family life usually confine you to after dark.
7. Learn massage. Sharing a skilled, all-over body massage is one of the most wonderful gifts you can give one another. It brings great physical pleasure and relaxation to both the giver and the receiver of the massage. You don’t always want to go on to have sex straight afterwards but when you do make love it will feel fantastic.
8. Vary your setting. If you always but always make love in your good old double bed, look for chances to vary where you make love as well as when. If you’ve the house to yourselves at least occasionally, you can revive the fun of the sofa or living room floor of your courting days.
If privacy is a problem, use the remedy of countless courting couples – the back of the car or some other quiet spot. Half the fun of an affair is often seizing even uncomfortable opportunities. Faithful couples shouldn’t miss out on it all.
9. Share a bath or a shower. I’m not so much talking about the cliché of making love in the shower, though that’s fun when you’re in the mood.
It helps keep you close if you make it a habit that one of you sits and chats while the other baths or showers. A simple friendly gesture such as scrubbing the other’s back helps keep warm feelings flowing between you.
10. Sort out the turn-offs. Sometimes husband or wives can develop habits or traits that put their partner right off sexually. Bad breath, greasy hair, tatty underwear etc., can all lead to a partner finding excuses to avoid sex or not making love with their old verve.
It’s better to be honest. You may be holding back because you worry about hurting your partner’s feelings, but the result is that you hurt them and yourself more, because you don’t give them the chance to put the problem right. Wouldn’t you want to know if it were you?
Well, those ideas should give you something to be working on. If you have a particular problem, however, do drop me a line and I’ll do my best to help. You might like my free leaflets on How To Revive Sex Drive or 50 Ways To Add Sparkle To Sex. I’ll look forward to hearing from you.
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