3. Approach intimacy as an adventure.
Think about ways you can get frisky out in public (shopping) or doing the mundane (watching TV). Then jump on the first opportunity you have to make privacy passionate. Adding new elements to your same old routine will get both of you in a mindset to tap feelings of arousal when they occur.
4. Carry condoms.
Notice the plural – as your sexual free will may beckon more than once in the same sex session. Sure, some complain that rubbers interrupt foreplay or ruin sex. But for a number of lovers, any sex whatsoever requires suiting up. Spontaneous or not, sex won’t happen unless you come prepared.
5. Evaluate your birth control.
Couples are into hassle-free sex, and this includes not thinking about contraception when a sexual opportunity presents itself. One of the best options out there in being safe, highly effective, and easily reversible is the intrauterine contraceptive. Following simple insertion at her doctor’s office, a woman hardly has to think twice about getting pregnant for the next five to seven years.
6. Reconsider what constitutes “sex” for you.
Being sexually spontaneous doesn’t have to be all about intercourse. It can involve other sex acts, like kissing, caresses, erotic talk and oral delights. Expanding your definitions of what spontaneous sex entails allows you to have more of it and amplifies the experience.
7. Consider other ways you can be sexually spontaneous.
Conscious communication about sex has been unfairly summed up as unsexy. Kill that mindset by talking about the desire you have to go with your instincts and how you can make that happen during everyday events — for example, washing the dishes. Talking about such can cause some unexpected loin-stirring that may just have to be satiated immediately!
8. Do things that invite sexual spontaneity.
Sure, you’re planning it. But that doesn’t mean that sex isn’t spontaneous for the object of your affections. Declare that you’re going to make an impromptu candlelight dinner. Give an unexpected massage. Do things that are likely to invite automatic amour from your lover.
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