9. Plan for spontaneity.
Arrange for anything you desire to be in place when sexual impulses strike. Have everything you need for amazing sex within your reach (think lubricant or vibrator). This includes having your titillating travel bag full of absolute essentials to making love almost anywhere.
10. Take care of your sexual functioning.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is known for sidelining sexual spontaneity. Research in the “Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy” reported that men with ED scored lower on sexual spontaneity than men without ED. So address such concerns as soon as they present themselves, being sure to maintain a healthy lifestyle in fending off some factors involved in ED and other sexual disorders.
11. Think about how you define “spontaneity.”
The “myth of sexual spontaneity” has brainwashed us to think that sexual desire and arousal are an unconscious process. Suddenly, we’re acting on instinct, with sex determined by reflexive bodily impulses.
Sure, this is hot. But there’s something equally hot about instantly having sex that you’ve been lusting for, hoping for, planning for all day. Spontaneous may just be that you’re taking advantage of the opportunity when it finally presents itself.
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