Ladies, I know that most of the time we think we are the more normal sex on Match.com, and that the guys are the ones who are sending messages that we refuse to answer because they range from cocky to awkward to downright creepy. But the fact of the matter is that sometimes we start making the same mistakes and stop getting answers. No matter how cute your pictures are, how normal your profile makes you seem, or how much of a catch your friends tell you that you are, if you’re doing the following, you might not be getting many Match emails back.
YOU ARE THE QUEEN OF “TMI” You know that girl who talks too much, past the point where anyone else is listening? If you do that in email, his eyes might glaze over before he even gets to the “Hope to hear from you soon!” Beyond that, there are topics that are bad form for first dates, let alone first emails. Money, religion, and politics should be avoided, no matter what one’s profile already states. And be careful of throwing out the quirky things that only the people who know you really, really well find cute or interesting. You think your dog can actually understand you and barks back answers to you? Great – keep it to yourself until a few dates in. You collect dolls and keep them surrounding your bed? Save that for – well, just hold off on that one. Remember, if you wouldn’t say it upon first meeting someone at a bar, don’t say it in an email to someone you’ve never even met.
YOU JUMP RIGHT INTO WHAT YOU WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP Whether you decide to tell a guy right off the bat that you’re looking for something casual or you drop the word “marriage” ten times within the email, talking about what you’re looking for in a relationship in that initial email is a bit presumptuous. That’s like going up to a stranger that you find attractive in a bar and telling him you’re ready for a ring when he is. He hasn’t even indicated that he’s interested yet, and you’re already telling him what you want in a guy. We get it that on Match people are looking to date, but just like in real life, they aren’t always looking to date you.
HE DOESN’T GET YOUR HUMOR
Using humor in written form is tricky, especially if the guy has never talked to you in person. He doesn’t know yet that you’re the most sarcastic girl in your group of friends or that you subscribe to the philosophy of “the more awkward and offbeat, the more hilarious.” You either start out by insulting his pictures or mentioning how your last boyfriend put a restraining order on you, and you’ll come off as a total b—- or a crazy b—- . Either way, if the jokes are lost on him, you’ve probably already lost him.
YOU SEND EMAILS AT ODD TIMES This might not be obvious, but if every time you don’t get an answer back it’s because you sent it at 12am on a Saturday night, that might be a clue. If you seem like all you do on the weekends is troll online dating websites, this might be a red flag that you aren’t going to be bringing much to the table. We understand staying in on the occasional weekend, but sending a three-page email when everyone else you know is out at the bar could look bad. Either that, or your potential match will think you’re drunk-emailing him. Classy. Sending emails at 4am during the week is also a little strange, because unless you have some random work hours, what the hell are you doing sitting up at dawn and composing emails to guys you don’t even know?
If you haven’t been getting responses and don’t know why, go back to the emails you’ve sent to see if any of these are the problem. If not, maybe it is your profile picture.
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