Dr. Laura Berman says in her new book, Real Sex for Real Women: Intimacy, Pleasure & Sexual Wellbeing:
Sex and romance are crucial for long-term intimacy. The stronger the sexual connection, the stronger the emotional intimacy will be. It is important to nurture and feed your relationship both emotionally and sexually.
That connection between sex and intimacy is the basis of Dr. Berman’s book, which candidly addresses how to reinforce the sexual strength of your relationship by exploring your own sexual ideas and attitudes and details specific ways to put a bit of zing into a relationship that may have become a bit hum-drum.
According to Dr. Berman, there are five steps couples should take to jump-start a floundering sex life:
1. Don’t fake it: According to Dr. Berman
If you want a more satisfying sex life, you have to start telling your own sexual truths now. It’s an epidemic. Over 70 percent of women have faked orgasm if not on a regular basis, once in a while.
2. Ask for what you want: Be bold, ladies! Let him know what you’d like in a positive, gentle way and you might be surprised what happens.
3. Let go of negative messages: This can be a lot easier said than done, especially if you’ve spent the majority of your life thinking that sex is something “dirty.” Dr Berman recommends practicing sexual affirmations and, for problems achieving orgasm, breaking out the big guns — the Aphrodite vibrator.
4. Visit your doctor: If things have changed for you physically — you used to have orgasms and now can’t — it’s a good time to make an appointment with your doctor to rule out any physical problems.
5. Make sex a priority: Schedule sex?! That probably sounds weird, but it can often work like a charm (or aprodisac, if you will).
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