8. Masturbation is bad for your sex life.
Quite the opposite. Masturbation is a major key to female orgasm; if you know your own body, you can show your man what you want. Studies show that chicks who monkey with themselves are more likely to orgasm with a partner! And with men, masturbation actually increases their sexual control – meaning decreased problems with premature ejaculation.
There are health benefits too. For women, masturbation (or sex, of course) reduces the pain of menstrual cramps and headaches (so much for the “not tonight, I have a headache” theory). For men, it prevents prostrate blockage, which can lead to painful erections or even prostrate cancer. For both genders, it’s a stress-reducer and leads to a better immune system.
9. It’s okay to fake orgasms.
Why are so many of us doing this?! Surveys show that about 80% of women have faked an orgasm at least once, and about 60% regularly fake orgasms. The guys have no clue: on average, 70% of men can’t tell when you’re faking.
One study showed that women who fake orgasms are more likely to cheat on their partner! It’s pretty obvious why – if she’s not being satisfied in bed, she’ll seek her pleasure elsewhere.
It is NEVER okay to fake. I would go so far as to label faking orgasms as a sexual dysfunction. Why? Because you are lying. Plus, you’re cheating yourself in bed. If he doesn’t know what you want, he can’t do it. Men hate women who fake orgasms. They would much rather know how to really get you off; they feel more sexually successful when you experience genuine pleasure.
So why do we fake? Here are the top reasons:
- To boost his confidence and make him feel like a sex god
- To get it over with and go to bed
- So you feel like a sexual success
- You’re self-conscious about your “orgasm face”
- Because it’s just not going to happen tonight
If he’s not getting you off, he’s not a sex god. You can make him into one, but not by lying. What would he think if he knew you weren’t being honest in bed? That would deflate his ego more than anything.
Are we really that lazy? Yes, surveys say. One of the main reasons women either deny sex or fake orgasms is because they’re tired and want to go to sleep. Maybe you really do have to get up early. Go to bed earlier – or have sex at a time other than bedtime. Of course, some women pretend to be tired because they’re just not into sex. If that’s you, you’re reading the right series of articles; that problem can be fixed.
You may feel it’s “expected” for you to come every time. You should come every time. But faking isn’t really coming. If you have to fake it, you are not a sexual success. You’re not a porn star or a sex goddess – you’re a faker.
I couldn’t believe this one. If you’re having a fabulous O, who cares what you look like? Quite a few women, as it turns out, reported that they fake an O because their real orgasm face is “unattractive”. So they’d rather lose out on orgasms than look like a beaver gnawing its own face off for a few seconds.
Even the most sexually satisfied women have nights where it just ain’t happening. If you’re in-tune with your body, you know when you aren’t going to come. It’s okay to let your partner know – it’s better to say “Baby, you’re doing everything right – but I’m not going to come tonight. It still feels great, but go ahead and come whenever you’re ready” than to fake it.
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