Your boyfriend is a sensitive guy, a good listener and a true friend — which means he probably has many female friends who call him up to get help working through their (often male-related) issues. While you trust him, you’d have to be in a catatonic state for this not to stir up some feelings of jealousy. Especially if they call/text/”need him” ALL the time. What to do?
Well, we make it a point of pride not to give any advice remotely similar to that doled on the unwatchable show, The Marriage Ref. On a recent episode, we heard (we certainly didn’t watch it!) that one couple’s dispute was over a good male friend the wife liked to hang out with occasionally. Sarah Silverman argued that since the wife was totally open and upfront with her husband about the friendship, the husband had nothing to worry about — and that anyone paranoid about being cheated on was probably someone capable of cheating themselves. A voice of reason! And from the queen of bodily functions humor no less. But then the male idiots chimed in and voted in favor of the guy: the wife should respect her husband’s wishes and dump the friend.
Lame.
If this story shames you in any way then that’s a pretty good indication you know, deep down, you’re more jealous than you are correct in your suspicions. Ask yourself this: Would these friendships bother if you they were with men? (And don’t tell us guys wouldn’t talk that much on the phone — just suspend your disbelief for a second and imagine they would.) If the answer is no, then you’ve got to work on your own insecurities. It’s not fair for you to come along and dictate who he can and cannot be friends with simply based on gender, especially if these are friends he had before you showed up and you know them to be entirely platonic. It’s one thing for you not to like his friends based on their character (if they’re jerks, then we get it), but not liking them based entirely on their genitalia is a whole ‘nother thing.
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