Sometimes he’s his own worst enemy. He’s gotten as far as the bedroom, all ready for action, only to hurt his own efforts.
Fraught with any number of sex fears, his lusty libido has been replaced with insecurity and unbearable stress. He’s consumed with doubt and dread instead of desire.
What are these debilitating fears hampering his sex life, and how can he get his head back into the game?
While they typically come off as cool, calm and collected, a number of men can experience sexual fears at any point in his sex career – and with any partner. With his sexuality very much tied into his ego, the results are dire, even when he’s in a loving, supportive relationship. Negative outcomes include:
— Decreased sexual interest and desire;
— Performance anxiety;
— Compromised erectile functioning;
— An inability to enjoy sex.
So what are the sexual concerns consuming him? Here are a few of them…
1. He’s panicking about his size.
Many men fret about the size of their penis. They fear that they won’t measure up to a partner’s satisfaction or that their “Amazonian” proportions will be intimidating.
To get over his size issues, it’s important to remember that, when it comes to a man’s member, “some men are showers while others are growers.” Males with “smaller” penises tend to become larger when erect than their “larger” counterparts. That is, they grow more in proportion to their original size.
Regardless, sexual satisfaction boils down to what he can do with all of his equipment.
2. He’s worried that he’ll be a lousy lover.
Particularly in new partnerships, where lovers are still getting to know each other, he’s going to spend a lot of time wondering if his lover had an orgasm or if they’re satisfied. Sadly, many lovers have trouble talking about their sexual needs, gratification, what’s working and what needs to be done differently.
Checking in with his lover is the best way to guarantee that he’s meeting expectations. Doing so further wins him brownie points since this is interpreted as caring for and having concern for your lover, which are such ego strokes! It also gives him the opportunity to let his own wants and desires be known.
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