Think you know everything there is to know about men and sex?
Given much of what we think we know is myth-based, you may want to think again. Men and women alike assume they know the “ins and outs” of a man’s libido, sexual antics and romantic pursuits simply because of what they’ve been told.
But when you stop to really digest and analyze what we’ve been brainwashed to believe about men’s sex lives, it’s easy to see that a lot of what we “know” is dead wrong.
1. Men can have sex anytime/anywhere.
Sure, there are moments in a man’s life when he’s seemingly in heat, ready for any ride. Yet such states are not his norm. A man’s emotional fitness influences his sexual health and satisfaction.
This emotional fitness is influenced by his physical fitness, for example, stress, fatigue or anxiety. His lifestyle also plays a role. Is he a workaholic? How he feels about his lover and relationship factor into his needs and wants. Then with age and experience, many men come to learn that they require an emotional connection with their lover. That makes for a hotter sexual connection.
2. Men are only romantic to please the object of their affection.
This notion can be broken down in a number of ways. Some men do in fact woo to please. Some woo to be wooed. Others enjoy the wooing more than the romance. Then there are those who use romantic efforts as a way to have sex, to seal the deal in a life-long partnership, or maintain a union.
Overall, his romantic pursuits support the hypothesis that romantic love is a motivation system designed to enable suitors to build and maintain a close relationship with a preferred mating partner. Any scenario highlights research findings showing that men may tend to be more unrealistically optimistic, believing that good things are likelier to happen to them than others, as reported in Daniel Amen’s book, “Sex on the Brain.”
This includes his sex life.
3. Men always prefer to initiate sex.
Really? Consider how much he enjoys being seduced. In “Sex in America: A Definitive Study,” R.T. Michael and colleagues found that 93 percent of men find appeal in watching their partner undress. Edward Laumann and colleague’s 1994 research on sexual practices in the U.S. found that 41percent of men use any form of erotic materials. And a great deal of erotica is created to seduce the viewer.
4. Men think about sex every 7 seconds.
If you do the math, this statement is ridiculous. Being awake for 17 hours per day, for example, would make for having sex thoughts more than 61,000 times a day. That doesn’t leave time for much of anything else, now does it?
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